While my bf and I both enjoy sex, he cannot maintain his erection when we're intimate. Why do some women think only men have to do all the cute romantic stuff? I don't care how much cardio you do, this motion is not possible to replicate in real life by thrusting, even with two people, especially not for an extended time. I am currently working on distracting myself from the loneliness that I feel after being with him for almost 15 years. I am 20 year old male and I recently had the same problem. It doesn't just have to be dinner either; you can plan a fun activity, such as going to a concert or a stand-up comedy show.
But at worst they can cause health problems and even harm him physically. Im a 20 year old male and ever since that day i havent been able to get fully erect. Don't Nag This is probably one of the most obvious statement, but often the hardest to do. How did you get to this point? I felt a shock at that time and extreme pleasure plus some pain. I told him I was concerned not only for our sex life, but for his health. I have moved my times to mid-late days when it's more likely I'll have sex. It's been 6 months since then and my life has been really great.
Many of the little annoyances you may have you will forget about in a few weeks anyway, so it is not worth it to get upset over them. Always look at the positives in the relationship and point those out to him. Allow this time to be a sort of break from your busy, married life and re-engage with your friends and what is going on in their lives. I am going through the same thing with my bf now. After years of lack of communication, you start fighting or just quietly resenting each other. If I am there, he is usually with me instead of with her, which confuses me as does the bear hug I get from him when he arrives as well as when he leaves. Why do we all forget that we are in the flesh? We have talked about it but he says that he has no idea what the matter is and that he is not worrying about not being able to get hard before we start getting intimate so I'm not sure if the mental barrier theory is right either but at the same time he is fairly healthy and we are 19 so I doubt its a physical problem.
Also he only wants to talk about when he wants too so it's hared to get him to have a decent conversation about it. Last and important, the intercourse would be different every time so do not expect to be like in porn. But there are couples who love each other deeply. He is curious and he is longing for you, and you are going to keep it light and casual. Or perhaps this has been an ongoing issue in your relationship. Concerts are extremely memorable experiences that create unique feelings each time. That was a game-changer for us.
Give him a massage when he gets home. During that time, never once did I have a problem getting it up, or keeping it up. . The fog of hurt clouds judgment; seek wise counsel and prayerfully make decisions that align with God's Word. Visual signals are just as important as words.
Your husband wants you to be happy and comfortable as well. There's a really good guide on this at: All in all, he's lucky that you're reading an article teaching you how to make him happy! When one partner wants to watch porn and the other doesn't, that can be a very tricky situation. I am having the same type of problem. Be spontaneous, take pride in your appearance, and let your husband know he turns you on. He said that we just need to wait and see how this pans out. Unfortunately for her, this included openly sobbing in front of him, begging on her knees, calling him way too many times and sending long letters.
Paradoxically, you can do it by leaving him alone. And its never hapenned before. Keith and all of my friends have reassured me that this is not the case. I went off the Nitric Oxide, and between the mental desensitization from porn and physical from masturbation , I had serious problems keeping it going with my girl in bed. Get hard, maintain the hard-on without stimulation , and put on the condom, then continue to maintain it.
If your man expects you to do all of this, run like hell! Being attractive isn't all about looking sexy, it's about exuding a confident and compassionate attitude as well. I'm 25 and my husband is 28 we have been together for 8 year but we just got married back in June. We recently met again and the spark and love is definitely still there but his pride is getting in the way. I'm 18 and from time to time nerves do get the better of us guys. This article was co-authored by.