I don't even know what makes me happy. Then the story was told after the fact, her personal time, in her mind ,was then ruined and I was to blame. If I try to say anything about anything, she has to argue so I thought not saying anything and focusing on my career would help and it makes her even worse toward me. But when they happen I feel torn up. Funny way of showing your love, mate. Also, I am afraid if she goes to the wrong counselor she will leave me.
I have tried every thing I can think of: appeasing, avoiding, reasoning, pleading, and now even physical confrontation. All those while i was at work all day long, she felt too lonely that she fell into the arms of the photographer. Imagine if you and your wife or girlfriend could switch genders. At the same time, she refused to recognize her own bad habits. In fact I almost think that at any chance I get I do my best to irritate her to insanity. Who you are, your failings and shortcomings.
I'd hate to think how you'd treat a person you did't like. While most acknowledged my wife's abusive behavior, I knew they could not comprehend the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual toll that it took on me. He was angry and hurt and I did my best thinking I could make it better. He was rude and mean and never complimented me. The role of a man should be defined in those terms not in terms of a machine. I became my worst nightmare.
Cant even go on with my day at work, my eyes full of tears everytime i think about what i did, and her voice crying in the bathroom. If the fluctuation of her moods has caused an uneasiness in her? Second, it shows that there is a lot more your husband needs to get over and change in himself. She would go through my cell phone. Everything you said is him. After years of mental n verbal abuse I had no self respect n dignity n started long distance affair. You're with someone who supposedly loves you, and yet takes every opportunity to bring you down - what's the sensible course of action? You must work on it every single day.
You will regret it for the rest of your life however long he decides to let you live. Lost touch of my sense of humor. I feel like i have lost all my senses and I'm just like a machine always searching and looking up solutions for the best things to do for my kids health wise, education wise and general upbringing , for my career and until recently for my husband not anymore though, I've tried too hard until all my mental and physical energy are worn out. Pleasing is always looking for a payback. I have broken down and cried rivers of pain with men in my life. It's so hard trying to still be there for the person you love while you see these harsh characteristics and hear nothing but criticisms on everything that make it hard to even like them.
He has been physically abusive and as a result I hate and resent him for it. I see a therapist because I want to handle this better. Things began changing when I started having an existential crisis at age twenty-eight. But whats different is she sat calmly and said nothing and today she hasnt called me. Last night he almost killed me.
You just need to use that strength to get help and get out. The email and texts have continued with the same old theme, it is all your fault. I don't know what else to do. I believe your efforts to reclaim your connection to your home are laudable — and healthy. I first heard about him on the internet there were quite a number of comment about him on blogs and even on Facebook so he just seemed like the perfect person to help me out with my problem at that moment in time and just as i thought , he was the right person. She will let you abuse her because she can't tell what's right or wrong. Today it still hurts to see him be so kind and understanding to anyone but his children and me.
I soon realized that when I reacted to his violence with violence, I was giving him weapons to use against me. I have confessed my sins to God and her and have asked for forgiveness. It was my fault he cried too much, my fault he didnt sleep through the night. And that in return I've spent the last few years subconsciously repaying the favor. The heart, speaking in terms of the seat of our emotions, was created much like other parts of the body.
I know that her heart is closed to me right now, but slowly I see signs, at times, of it opening up again. We have been together for 13yrs married for 3 and honestly it's been soul destroying at times. I believe if we want to win back the heart of our wife we may need to learn how. She needed control and always decided when and where. She said she will not talk to this guy anymore and we will work on us and are marriage. So I guess the next time he chokes me I'll just let it happen and won't try to fight it. It's hard to understand why you think you have any chances left with this woman.
Learn to Live by Truth Ultimately life cannot be lived strictly by emotions. We have had two separations and we recently 3 weeks ago got back together after being separated for 9 months. When I met my boyfriend, I fell for him hard but he was seeing other people and lied about it to my face. We admire you for your stand to remain faithful and true to her, no matter what may come. It would be sad for you, but at least you would be leaving before it gets tragic for you.