And I dont think you can be surprised when the relationship doesnt work out. Problems are no excuse for cheating. You try to think and think and try to make sense of why this happened to you, what you could have done differently. And, you have to make peace with that. It can be done, but it sure isn't easy.
You can get over it, but be honest with your next partner at let them know what happened and how it has effected you in the coming months. Someday, he might grow up and be true to himself and be an honest person, hopefully. Cory wrote: Take your time moving on. I still think there is a lot of wisdom that comes from community and group think. Be alone for a while. If he loses his job it will be his own fault. I always thought that if my partner cheated I'd leave in the blink of an eye.
This is a really hard question to ask because it relies solely on you. If someone refuses to communicate their problems, how am I supposed to be sympathetic when they bring them up as an excuse later on? Sorry to say it is over. I think he is dead walking man. If my husband had been an alcoholic I would have been by his side through recovery. I need to work on myself and stand on my own two feet and then finally get rid of him. You did nothing wrong and he is the asshole.
Let him go, forgive him. I feel like nothing meant anything in my life or marriage. My distrust has ruined so many relationships. Need help with your relationship? I am now lost with no sense of what to do. And he said he would never. He is a hard worker and good provider for us.
We paid off our first home; he is very very very focused on finances and started to investigate get rich quick schemes that went totally against my ethos amway etc I worked in Finance. I'm replying to your edit. Did you hold a gun to his head and make him push the nuke button on your relationship? About 2 years into our relationship she went travelling around the world with her friend for 5 months and not for one second did I then, or now, ever imagine she would have cheated. Happy divorced parents, in my experience, is better than completely miserable parents that stick together. A clean break would probably be better. He cheated on me 11 years ago when I was 6 months pregnant with my daughter and I forgave him and he was so sorry for what he had done and we moved on. The next day, he had messaged me to hang out, flirting through Facebook message.
That was a couple years ago. He swore to God she was just a hair stylist who was going to cut his hair for him, but I knew he lied. The phone calls were only when he was away working. We can get through this pain. I am willing to gamble, yes, and take my pain and throw it out the window if that would help me move on. And infidelity and the chaos and lack of control and feelings of utter helplessness scare the shit out of folks. I am beautiful in and out, and yes, would be very successful if I tried online dating….
Then she told me about a male friend she made over break I asked how they met she said over instagram. They have 2 kids, which he has custody of. Of course you trusted him. Don't look for reasons to blame yourself over his choices, but try taking the rose-colored glasses off and view yourself and previous relationship and previous partner in a more critical light. No, as far as how I feel about the subject. It may not be purposeful, but it seems like it might be. Sort through your feelings take some time for things to calm down and then make your decisions with a clear conscious that this wasn't your fault and that you learned something from this experience.
You definitely deserve much better and have for a long time, especially if you have children. You're right and I thought the same thing. Problems are no excuse for cheating. I don't know what are you going to do? No woman wants to be the relationship police. Two categories, very little gray. I would be grateful of some light on this situation. This is the first man I've ever fallen in love with.
Unless you are his boss, that is why I thought that she was threatening his job. I dont know if you followed the advice that was given to you but I would not contact the husband. Please help me shed some light on this. If you read the other posts, he was catholic and I had issues with sex because of some things he did. But, when he is not around, you arm yourself with as much knowledge as you can.