Be kind to yourselves and thank you again. Maybe, it is me; I do my best to help, and am often met, with judgment, rather than assistance. I have a girlfrn age of 40. I could be a great Bible teacher; I could even be a preacher from the pulpit—and have not love. The thing that we need in the church today is genuine, old-fashioned humility. I am truly amazed that I have managed to not kill myself. It is true that a life without love is crushing at times but it also provides one with time to explore oneself and the world at large.
Either when I am alone or with friends. I belong to the depression group. You need to Pray and have a peaceful mind!!! I know once I decided this, there will be more people will be hating me. It is inspiring how you are trying to manage your life. I have tried dating and have found nothing but liars, cheaters and con men.
I always joke around with my married friends that I am more happier being single and even more than what they are experiencing as a married man. It is a love that demands humility. Sometimes I feel I am not happy about my job, teaching, either. I hope the afterlife is peaceful. So, amid my pain from the acid burns, I starve. It never pushes itself to the top, never tries to promote itself, never tries to advertise itself. I do have a dog.
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated! Fell in love again after that but only to an unavailable woman. For other adults, the feelings that are usually generated from their need for love have long since been muted. I have been loved and destroyed from them only. In other words, your psychological defenses are in control of you instead of the other way around. All I canmustmmm can muster is a wart hog. Now the point for my N level means everything to me.
I can say from experience that loneliness is crushing, and rejection breeds rejection. The thing to remember about psychological defenses is, we all practice them to one degree or another, and to practice them in a constructive and healthy manner is the objective. These needs are genuine—in me and in everyone else—just like our needs for food and sleep. Because expectations almost always fail you. And I feel I have been robbed of the right to live as a human being should. My situation could be a little different. I use to find validation in someone smiling on me, pitying me and loving me with all her heart and that the years of my life I was so miserable with love.
My grandma followed suit mostly from the depression that followed and we were basically left to take care of ourselves. We love so deeply, we care each other for few years. For me, love is something that happens in the movies or to anybody else but me. During high school I had several crushes and always pushed myself to make contact. I find life so boring I get home from work and just lay in bed till the next work day begins.
I am amazed I have not killed myself. As nobody cares whether Im living or not. People with a need for love that cannot be satisfied for whatever reason at this time in their lives have no other option than to develop psychological defenses against the feelings emanating from their unsatisfied need for love. Randy, you spoke what is in my mind. I have been feeling this longing since I was around 13 yo.
This is my opinion at least. All I know is that every single woman on the planet finds me utterly revolting, repulsive, and disgusting. I want to retire to a hole 6ft. I loved a girl 3 years back, she married someone else 2 years ago. It makes no difference how deep in the mire of sin and transgression you have gone. And why would someone deliberately destroy her own marriage? I have now time to to live music concerts, stadiums, library, evangelism, witnessing etc.
I rarely share anything, but I guess even I need the feel to share. Too scared to get out so I live in limbo and unhappy and lonely. I am 57 years old and have thought about suicide several times because the lack of love in my life is starving me of hope. In 1 Corinthians 13, we have first a description of a man who does not possess love. I will enjoy music and friends but live with this crushing emptiness and longing. As you guys said, loneliness as crushing beyond words can tell. I divert my energy to these things.
But I have only rejection in my own marriage. Keep reading and writing and doing all the stuff that make your life meaningful. No relationships, no wife, no children. I had all the messy emotions. So I went through this life without experiencing any romantic love. Unfortunately that brings a lot of pressure on that person because they would have to be amazing.