With that said, if you are in a romantic relationship, be mindful that it may be impacted. It's day to drwn and lse yourself in the sea of emotions. I could keep going for days. Maybe that will push her to fess up, but your relationship with her will always be tainted. When there are kids involved, this is very important. She stopped by while he was not home and it was obvious to her he had been screwing around. He appreciated her informing him, told her he had been suspecting something was up for awhile and that this only confirmed it.
She did something terrible and it's worse when she doesn't regret it. I do, however, like your point about asking the spouse if your friend really wants to know. She has betrayed you and her best friend. And, you have to remove the man out of your life. I have had friends before that cheated and let it slide, thinking it was her own business.
I expect in time Sarah will want to renew her friendship with me, either after Tim strays again or when she sees him for the weak-willed, untrustworthy snake he is. It crushed me and humiliated me almost more that my friends betrayed me than that the guy did. Foolishly, she didnt realize the email account could be accessed using the website where you pay the bill. Enabling prevents psychological growth in the person being enabled and can contribute to negative symptoms in the enabler. But doing the right thing doesn't feel so great when it results in hurt; that's the deontologist's burden, and it can be a heavy one. I invite you to be mindful of the fact that we are all in process and all struggle with actions that are hurtful to ourselves and others yours may not seem as glaring, so be thankful for that! I did not go out with her again but I had to see her everyday at work. That way you can find out if their is an arrangement sparing the embarrassment of the other partner or get the other person to confess to you and or the other partner.
You will be on an emotional roller coaster as others have said. Hes cost thousands in doctor bills for taking revenge on people that interfered with him. Apparently, she and the coworker have been working together in the same department for the past three years, developed a friendship, which ultimately turned into an emotional affair. Not going to even bother tossing my soda on him as i walk by, not my problem. Especially since things are clearly not going well for him. Of course the severity matters.
My husband and i have started socialising with them both as a couple now and i am finding it so hard not to hate her for what shes doing. But I think that there is a detachment that we can learn to apply to both. You cannot spend your life with somebody who would selfishly screw over her husband and her best friend. She was independent because she had to be but i recognized a deep sadness in her and she was always quite clingy towards me in a way that said she didn't really have anyone else. I couldn't talk to either of them.
Of course, your friend will not know to do that unless he or she knows, or suspects, the affair, and if only you know. How do I break it off for good and move on? I called them after she left and they hit the ceiling. They rather avoid embarrassment and hurt than help their friend. You don't have to decide right this second or even over the next few years if you are truly going to R or D. We were close friends but not best friends. If you don't care about losing your friendship, then don't worry, it will definitely be lost when she finds out you knew all along and the trust is broken.
I confronted her after hearing one too many stories about her and her letting me down with plans once too often. I hated being the messenger of her misery and kept saying: 'I wish it wasn't me who had to tell you. I'll tell my friend quick, then the infidelity would be stopped early before it escalates. For as I have learned to my cost, there is never a correct way to tell your friend that her husband is being unfaithful. Well, it does require a spine and those seem to be in surprisingly short supply.
Then any steps they take are up to them. If beginning to feel sick now. You have a right to know your genetic heritage so that you can make informed health decisions. Not only did she screw me over, she screwed over her best friend. Does his friendship mean nothing to you? Even selfishly at least say something so you don't have the guilt.
By the way, this is something that I lived more then once in the past. You need to be honest with him about everything and what is still continuing because if the two of you decide to stay together, he is going to be your support system, and help you get through this situation. She didn't wake up one day with the intention to hurt anyone or to not live up to her own values. I feel like that would have bad results. Having been on both sides of this issue, and after journeying closely with several friends over the years who have confided in me the angst of juggling a second relationship, I offer you my wisdom with hope and humility. Be extra gentle on yourself and your partner as you work yourself back to a place of alignment and peace through journaling, counseling, meditation and other self-nurture and self-growth actions.