Most 15 year olds are very good at logic and can diagnose your concerns and adress them in a reasonable negotiation. To me it sounds like you began accusing your dad and you don't see it. And he expects me to do the same. I tried to be the best single mother I could be to you, my only child. Sad MomDear Sad Mom, I could tell you stories for days about the pain my son has caused me, about how much he's broken my heart after 20 years of love and effort on my part. I wonder if perhaps you are competing with your dad for attention, and you want the focus to be on you.
No matter how hard I try, all we do is argue. God is good and every day I find the strenght to start a new day a new beginning. The guidance councelor at his new school school I went to as a kid told me that my son does not want to see me or talk to me. And as far as my lacking research in psychology went, it seems to be also the same reason why I've developed more to be anti-social and completely unmotivated. To parent a teenager you need to understand what changes are going on in his body and mind and the importance of communicating. All we do is argue. Talk to your mother as well.
He told me once that if they are going to get divorced, it's going to be because of me. Get on with living your life and keeping one eye on the future. What should I do to make our relationship better? Living with adolescents is often exasperating and agonizing — but more often than not, they are entertaining and creative, keeping parents on their toes and providing them with an insight into everything from digital devices to modern culture. My mom is my sons only living grandemother left and his dad is turning him away from us all. I am now living with someone and have been for the past 4 years. He replaces my quality time with that girl.
I will have and will learn responsibilities in the future. Lorraine's book, , is a self-help book designed to help anyone who wishes to lead a happier life, and contains a built-in workbook. I have dealt with that since day one. And stop being a sook about it…. Of course, it is important to answer their questions honestly, but don't be brutal when dealing with a child's feelings. I don't know what your father was thinking, but I'm proud of you for spotting the problem. I am so broken heart.
I know I shouldn't talk that way to my father. I think your son needs to talk with a psychologist or pastor. I do not want our releation ship to be ruined. I am single so when he is not here I am alone but he always has one of us so i guess thats why he does not miss us as much. It is really sad that we pour our heart and soul into 10-13 yrs to only be denied our motherly duties which are to see our children happy doing well and know they love you and know they are loved. I wanted to correct the behaviours of my parents, who were, and still are, non-demonstrative.
I think that it is definitely a time where you have to be willing to give them a little bit of space space to grow and space to fail, and just let them know that you are still going to be there for them whenever it is that they decide that they need you again. So you are caught between roles that are important to you and not seeing a way to avoid choosing one role over the other. We just started seeing a therapist for him and Dad and i will stop by once a month. It is time to temper your desire to suckle him with respect for his adult status. They are learning conversational skills to communicate in an adult setting but sometimes teens express themselves in a very awkward and discourteous way.
He says he loves us, but he doesn't act like it. Desperate for help will try to keep this short. Dear sadmom, Seems like you need to build a relationship with your son. Every reason if valid, if not fair, every emotion you feel is valid, too. I wish I could wave avwand and make it all hoid for us all.
I hope your problems are resolved, Marcy, and everyone else's as well and you and your son start to mend your relationship. Do you know that you mean the world to me? I remember, too, how crazy I was. My ex mother-in-law is also not helpful. Take all that love, all that caring, all that consideration that you lavished on yoir son all these years and give All of it to you now. One day, your son will realize the error of his ways.
I didn't appreciate my mother and all she did for me until I had to start doing everything on my own. He doesn't seem to care about his family or responsibilities he has. He is your child and you will always love him therefore let him know that. And I honestly believe that opening your heart to him is the best way. After I was in the hospital and returned, things were okay, but now we get down to the second problem that made me hate my dad. Being with a man of your choice is a vital part of what makes your life work. Perhaps it is the way that they themselves were raised, but that's no excuse.
I guess their comments with the peer pressure from school created an even greater impasse. After our conversation, I questioned you, asking you what you would rather have: a daddy who always yelled and hurt us or a mommy who loved you with all her heart. No judge is gonna blame you. I don't care about him as much, I feel more like myself in school, and will never want to marry someone like him in the future. Not every story has a happy ending, but fortunately, this one does. You will find you are pulling the answers in the beginning.