Treat other people well and your perceived value will go up. So why your prescription might be sensible, it could also backfire. I have seen women who if I just saw a picture would not have been attracted to, but meeting them and seeing how comfortable they were in their own skin? He had a full head of blonde, Byronic curls and a killer smile. You couldn't believe your luck at having found her, and now you share the joyful gift of a child. Overall, I know this probably hasn't helped much, but I want you to know there can be a lot of factors. I raised this over the years a couple of times but now after 15 years of marriage I am completely miserable.
My husband told me last week that he is not attracted to me now. So please, take a deep breath and seek help - not from me but from somebody who is fully trained and qualified to give it. If that's the case, you need to get that fixed first. But the person with the problem has to want to change if not for them selves then for the health of the relationship. I find her beautiful and ever more so the longer we are married. Lets get this thread back on topic…… ….
When you, as a husband share your love, support, trust, care and respect with her-she will reflect it. And after the first ten pounds it just keeps getting better. This is all fully and completely honored by me because she had no choice in those matters. I think your situation is the most like ours. The best thing you can do for her is be there for her. And be aware that men get snapped up very quickly.
She also takes webutrin sp. Well, I have clinical depression, and it makes it 100 times harder to lose the weight. Focus only on the good. I don't know whether you feel inferior to her or not, but there is a whiff of disbelief and unworthiness in the way you talk about her. Right or wrong, this is where he is at and if you want to be a blessing to him, there are things you can do to help the situation.
An important reminder to stand up for our wives! I have racked my brains; is there a hidden problem lurking that we aren't discussing? I work out alot too. We just celebrated 30 years of marriage and she still feels overwhelmed to know how attracted to her that I am. There is always the flip side of the coin. So what could be wrong? In 3 months she lost 50 lbs. She probably is aware that you don't find her sexually attractive. Let me know if you have other thoughts or if I can help in any other way! It is hard for anyone not to like her. You cannot underestimate the value of touch in a relationship — it creates connection and intimacy and it even impacts on self-esteem These are just suggestions, and they may not be right for you.
Kind of like saying, If you are mean, you are nasty and no one will like you-so I should tell you that you are mean! Now, food is her comfort, her god. Talk about sex It's all too easy to avoid talking about precisely what you like and don't like, but you really do need to talk. He has really been very demeaning and belittling to me the last 2 years after confessing to me how attracted he is to a girl in the band. The funny thing is i feel my wife doens't seem to find me very sexually attractive. By the time it gets later at night, she'll put it down and start coming on to me.
Perhaps you can join your church community. I made a covenant before God to love this woman, and I do, despite the pain and frustration. I have tried to start conversations only to end mid sentence, and then go do something else. I believe wholeheartedly, that your attitude and love for her can deeply impact her for the good, if you choose to love her as God does. We often want our spouse to change and then everything will be ok in our marriage. If you are physically fit but don't make a lot of money or eye contact- the work on those things. Trust God with your life and your marriage.
Not only sex but touching, cuddling. The question is, what help would be best for you? Families help two people bond, and sharing about your family is a healthy sign. I did tell him how I felt. Sometimes when women have homonal imbalances, they don't get the proper lubrication and sex can be very painful. Right now I am at a loss of what to do.
. I would like views on the following please: 1. The quality of your friendship with your partner determines the quality of your sex life. And communication about dissatisfaction, while it may seem unfriendly or mean, is often what it takes to get out of a rut. Figure out a way to make that happen, that is what I m doing. We know that she's in the wrong, but you deserve the validation.