This is a good rule of thumb for healthy relationships as well. Nitpicking is also the act of being overly concerned about insignificant details. As much as I would love to discuss why sometimes they're wrong, it is often a frustrating lost cause. You can't say anything potentially harsh in the first place, most of the time. I did like that video, however I'm not sure I could agree with one of his examples, that being we can ignore Citizen Kane's plothole.
Be aware of the mistakes that you commonly make so that you are able to amend them or prevent the situation from being repeated. I was, uh, disappointed, I guess? Rather than give compliments, she will point out the single missed comma in a 20-page report or comment that despite the success of the manager's meeting, the scones were too dry. Yes, the film does fine if you can look past it but from a story standpoint the plothole's just a little too large, just one line of dialogue or stage direction could have saved it but alas, it was not meant to be. If the developers couldn't be bothered to address bugs in that system before launch, or if they made poor design decisions, then criticism of this system is absolutely not nitpicking. You expect a weak plot in porn, but not in a prestige flick. Then I met my first jump scare, and then I realized I could read the Terms of Service Agreement in the time it took to traverse a corridor, and then I realized I'd spent ten minutes just stomping on bodies.
In the example of background scenery in films, I'd say 'nitpicking' would be overlooking any dialogue or action happening so you can focus on the set-pieces to see if they're well-used or not. That removes all nonverbal cues. Nitpicking is exactly what you think it means. How do you see me spending my day? I've become upset with decent games just because I picked their nits. It can be fun to nitpick, but a problem with me is that I will love something, nitpick it to hell and come out feeling more irritated by what I was nitpicking, it happened to Fairy Tail and Persona 4. This is a good rule of thumb for healthy relationships as well.
If you want the house cleaner, what do you think I should cut out of my day? Make sure that your boss is not nitpicking because you have underdelivered in the past. A lot of the time, people nitpick because they have an ax to grind and limited options. It was all about the first impressions for me. Observe if your boss treats everyone in the office in the same nitpicking manner. After months of nitpicking of this kind some movement towards translating words into deeds has at last taken place. I played the first Dead Space whee I'm on a scary space ship! Scenery is part of how a film builds its world and locates it's story, it may not be the most important part of a film but it warrants being done right.
What are your big priorities for us as a family? However I've noticed a few things that come to conflict with that. My wife believes the perfect is the enemy of the good, and will accomplish tasks in a way I feel is slapdash. Something that might be trivial in one product might be a big deal in another. And the fact is, none of the criticisms large or small really change that. His boss has even called him out on how he treats people. And then a matter of degrees, etc.
Be cautious when approaching the subject so that you do not sound accusatory or angry. Nitpickers often want to hate the product in the first place. Mention that you notice she tends to hone in on certain details and suggest ways to appease the situation. If you want the house cleaner, what do you think I should cut out of my day? Is clean the issue, or is it tidy? The nitpicking or micromanaging boss is the type that examines everything you do under a microscope. Pointing out or complaining about something that really has very little affect on the general 'goodness' of whatever your complaining about.
Even in Christian marriage, bitterness comes when we do not view our spouse with gracious, forgiving eyes, but with harsh expectations. Request a meeting with you, your boss and a representative from the Human Resources department if previous efforts at fixing the situation have not worked. I think the problem is more with criticising the small stuff when it doesn't lead to a greater whole. Rather than give compliments, she will point out the single missed comma in a 20-page report or comment that despite the success of the manager's meeting, the scones were too dry. Give grace —the same kind you want from your spouse when you irritate him or her with your ways of doing things. If the thorn, how important is your comment in the grand scheme of things? Nitpicking is exactly what you think it means.
The relationship can take a serious hit because of this habit. In fact, one might argue that even pointing it out after the show, as a part of or in lieu of actual discussion of the music or event itself is nitpicking because most people wouldn't notice, very few would care and yet fewer still could possibly have a reason to care. If so, how would one measure it? So what is nitpicking exactly? In any case, this is nitpicking, and, ironically, Klingman does the same thing in his essay. Which varies depending on the person, the work, and the context, especially since I weigh things about songs, films, or games differently than someone else might. It can be a floodgate to larger criticisms, ones that may even be unfounded. Is clean the issue, or is it tidy? Hollywood turns brides-to-be into into petty, vulgar, nitpicking obsessives. Doesn't matter how important they might be to the overall work.
A film has to use scenery to create an atmosphere because otherwise it just seems silly considering the subject matter of the dialogue and what not. Personally, I don't particularly care about the composition of a shot all that much in a film. Be cautious when approaching the subject so that you do not sound accusatory or angry. You can't say anything potentially harsh in the first place, most of the time. Nitpicking is what monkeys do to bond and eat some nits.